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Listen to BUT WE ALL by Valet Del Roy #np on #SoundCloud https://soundcloud.com/valetdelroy/but-we-all

Valet Del Roy - But We All

Maybe, everybody feels the same.



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Living to be Known: I Don't Know What You Mean - FourWord Monday #39

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Living to be Known: Always Watching, Always Listening, Always Talking - ...

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Lift You Up (Soundcloud direct post)

Listen to LIFT YOU UP ft. Makia Fly (Prod. by Adamack) by Valet Del Roy #np on #SoundCloud https://soundcloud.com/valetdelroy/lift-you-up-ft-makia-fly-prod-by-adamack

Lift You Up now on Soundcloud!

Here is the link for a new song I just posted to soundcloud called Lift You Up. Enjoy. Share.

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Living to be Known: Understanding Communication - FourWord Monday #37

Why is this so hard?

Living to be Known: Are You Living to be Known? - FourWord Monday #36

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Why Earning Trust can be Misleading (Follow-up to "Why Do You Trust?)

My Peoples, Hello...

What a topic to tackle. So I'll get straight to some of the thoughts I have on Trust. All week long I had very meaningful conversations with many of you around the world. One common phrase was continually spoken and those words reads as follow: "you know people have to "earn" your trust."

"Earn it, ay?"

Why?

I mean. I really can't stand nicely crafted common sayings. and just like "dating", I'm really struggling with the idea of having to ever earn anyone's trust again. 

Can I please take a moment to say and confirm something - "Just because someone won't trust you, does not mean you are untrustworthy." You tell them the Valet said that. Glad that's covered right! (not a question)

Now. Why is earning trust misleading? 

I hope that I can simplify it so that I don't ramble. I've spent all week rambling. 

Trust is not a tangible object, nor is love, or kindness. Therefore they are not earned, they are something that a person possesses that they willingly give. Now I'm not a preacher, but you can say "amen" if you want to, lol.

We all understand what it is to "earn" a paycheck. We work, they exchange that value in money. If you "earn" a promotion(at work), you are performing above and beyond, or completing more task and maintaining more responsibility. When you earn points on a card, it is because you are already making purchases. 

Earning trust is like working for six months, with no pay, and the job deciding after it all, whether or not you did a good enough job, based on a rubric you did not know. A lot of you may be thinking about an internship you once worked. They idea is that people want you to value what they give you. But why only when it's based in their own selfish comforts. What do I mean?

Should I work for something that you will not give me, based on no particular rubric, for an amount of time that cannot be determined, just for you to eventually give it to me anyway; or not. The idea is nonsense. But this is the cycle that takes place, and frankly, it is wasteful. You don't trust me now. That's OK. If one one day you do, fantastic. And if you don't, that is always your choice. 

But know this. Whether you give it or not, if you do, it's not yours anymore. So let's get real. If trust could be earned, then it would be too easy, I would know how to earn it, I would get it, do what I wanted with it and then my mission would be done. Sound familiar. I mean no offense to my ladies who were once young or are now. But I compare earning trust to a young man who purposely woo's a young lady and plays the role to get the trust so he can get the sex without the ring, without the tie, without the bind, without the commitment. And after he's earned that trust. PROBLEMS. We might all agree that kids don't need to give that kind of trust to each other, but they do, and they are. 

Now, I don't want to distract you so let me wrap this up. I hope you respond and help me think through this more. I'm not by far pessimistic or a downer. I'm just trying to exercise thoroughness in my thinking and reasoning because I argue to learn. So.

Trust is yours. You give it to whom you choose for reasons that belong to you. That trust cannot be regulated. Sometimes, it takes time, for you to build your own confidence the character of another, but don't mistake that for an "in-between trust ". That's not real. Either you do not trust, or you do. It's OK. If you don't trust and are taking time to evaluate a person cool. My advice to myself is not to assume that anyone trust me or has to. It's simple. But as far as my character or me being trustworthy and integral or capable.... not up to you. 

It's just like my job. I Valet. It's my JOB. People don't trust me. But leave their car with me anyway. It's my job, lol.