A Survey on Un(married) Relationships- How Do You See It? {PT. 3}

What I'll be doing here is an analysis of the survey...I (AM) looking to make a point. What I am (NOT) doing, is to try and draws conclusions as if I've got all the answers. This was meant for fun, this was done in fun, have fun with it. Agree, disagree, write your own analysis, make sure to comment, follow if you dig my style and help support ya boy in a quest to always keep it real and stir things up.Now, as one of my favorite Disney movie quotes would go, "Leeet's Do This Thing!".....(who can tell me what movie that is ay?) trivia question!

I loved the reactions from this survey. I specifically had couples do this survey too. Discussions began at lunch tables and in the fellowship hall. I felt like I had accomplished my mission.

When it comes to analyzing this survey what you need to know is that the questions were specifically ordered so that each would be hinged on the previous. For some, it caused people to seem as if they were contradicting themselves in their answering, but that's not entirely true because all people have their reasoning, right? Well, that's what I would like to explore. There is a reason that the answers are the way they are. There is also a reason why the questions are left open ended with no explanations or situational attachments.

I for one do not think that they are necessary for answering (at least i this case). I caught some flak from people who were upset about having people answer questions as if they're black and white answers; they wanted to know how far the relationships were because it mattered to them and background info about why someone would do what was on the survey.  Claiming that they could not or would not make a judgement call based on lack of or faulty information.

On the contrary I see people make judgements, say things and answer questions based on little to no information daily. The hard part about this survey is that people are pulled in and faced with answering and being confronted with some (what has been described as) hard personal questions. I mean, if you keep from imagining these as extreme situations then it does sometimes. These things happen in real life. You'll fill in the blanks for yourself. But, it happens, and if it does, you will, have to answer the question.

Let me define an unmarried relationship. There are many definitions. But, here we say that a relationship (kept in context) is: two individuals who choose to have some form of connection to one another.

Question 1. (about a man pursuing a woman in a current unmarried relationship)
Some would argue that doing this doesn't respect the other guy or the girl...
Some say "its not a sin, and not necessarily wrong, even if they don't like that...
Some say "go for it, you may be better, she may need/want something else....
Well, the decision IS hers; to reject the guy, say she has a man, or actually talk to him. Why must there be a weight on a girls shoulder to not, when it's her right and freedom to make her own decision. And for this other guy, why should he care who she's supposedly with? What if he actually wants and cares for this girl more. He doesn't have the right take that chance? He does not have to care about the other guys feelings. In the end, people will do what they want, that's why men and women cheat. What if, just what if? Men and women kept it real, made a decision, stuck to it and were truthful about it. They ARE individuals, they are NOT married... So why can't you accept it, or maybe we should ask. Why can you?


Question 2. (about two people in a (UM) relationship being...?)
Some would argue that two people are bound by their word to each other.
Some say that they are committed because they "chose" one another.
Some say "hey, not married equals single to me; at least when it's all said and done"
So let's keep this in line. As Christians, if we are looking at this from a Biblical perspective, as God may see it, what would we say. Are two unmarried peoples bound to each other. I think not, so I'll cancel that out. When we think of commitment, to whom are we committed. God? or this other person? and in what way. To edifying one another right? to helping, praying for, ministering to? To Timothy "a young man himself" Paul said instructed him to act towards young ladies like sisters in all purity...Although we as people commit to one another for many different reasons. As believers it comes out of love; you know the two greatest commandments , which should come from our commitment to God and His Word right... So would God say that two, unmarried, with a relationship are single? or committed to one another. Maybe they ARE just two individuals; that are NOT married. Are they single? You decide.


I WOULD LIKE TO TAKE THIS TIME TO THANK YOU FOR READING AND PARTICIPATING....THE LAST FOUR ANALYZED QUESTIONS WILL BE FOUND ON THE LAST AND FINAL POST!

HOLLA!