Monday, August 29, 2011

when "help" is all I can say.

So the saying goes "closed mouthes don't get fed."  Well I ain't that hungry right now, but I am broke. So I'm sure you get the picture. and that is what this particular post is all about. Me in need of your help. It is really that humbling. But God has taught me much about being humble and how dependant I really am. Not an unhealthy dependancy, But a Godly dependancy. Praise the LORD! so here it is.....



  My name is Delroy Martin Jr., I am 24yrs old, and I am in need of your support and prayers. I have come the halfway point of pursuing a degree at MOODY BIBLE INSTITUTE in Chicago, IL, for the Fall/Spring year of 2011-2012.                       

At this particular school, federal aid provided through FAFSA goes toward the already paid tuition fee that partnered donors and businesses worldwide have committed to so that every student accepted here can be blessed for seeking to impact the Kingdom. Aside from tuition, the unpaid room & board and extra fees in past years, have cost $4,800 - $5,000 but in recent days, economic troubles have caused this price to grow to $5,800 –$6,400.

I desire to focus completely on my studies and growth in the Lord as well as the work of ministry. The truth is that working a part time job of 24hrs, studying full time and doing ministry, will not cover the $1000+ school bill that I am to pay each month. With a donation or financial gift of any amount you can help further my education. I am studying for a degree in Communications Studies/Bible, as well as studying to participate in the ministry of Evangelism.

I plan to complete my four years of college and use this degree working in full-time ministry speaking, writing, training leaders, and organizing churches and their leaders and benefiting the Church and various communities around the United States and the world.

I am humbly asking you to take an interest in supporting me. Will you? In all things, I am most grateful that you took time just to read this. I pray God bless you in a tremendous way.

If you would like to know how you could support me through prayer and financially, please see the page that follows; my mailing and contact information is below. The school website is Moody.edu feel free to visit the website to gather any further information about the school.

With Sincere Thanks,

Delroy Martin Jr.

First of things, I thank you, for your time, your help and your prayers toward me.

I ask that you would join me in prayer for my studies, ministry, and relationships that I am building here while in school as I seek to glorify God with everything.

I ask that you visit and subscribe to my Blog that you might be able to keep up with what I am doing here to see and know for yourself that what is taking place is real and true.

Financially,

I know times are hard for people to give but I do not have the means to pay for college on my own. I do seek alternative ways of financial help. You can trust that I would not be asking if there were not need.

I ask that you would send what you can spare, even if only $5, $10 or $20. I need all the help I can get. If you choose to bless me with more I could be no more grateful than someone who spares a dollar to my educational cause. I thank you all the same in humility, with love and gratitude.

All checks must be made out to MOODY BIBLE INSTITUTE, with my account number on them (4047671) to ensure that all moneys will be directly deposited into my school account.

Please send all checks or money orders to the address below.
My ID# must be present on the check (4047671)

Delroy Martin Jr. CPO 562
820 N La Salle Blvd.
Chicago IL, 60610

My number:
951-445-8688

My email address:

And my love:
Living to Make HIM Known

Sunday, August 28, 2011

It's goin down in the Hood

Specifically on the West Side of Chicago. To clarify any confusion. As I've spoken before of the things that are going on around West Garfield. Remember when I talked about living out there for the summer? Well it is getting close to a year of being apart of ministry with Reborn Community Church, so I am much more aware and familiar with "some" things that are going on; and where they go on. This is just a few blocks south of our church.

Now, below is a link that you can copy and paste to your browser and check out the article that is on page 10 of the Chicago Sun-Times paper. Check out the photos on the site. It can give you a better look (partial) to what part of the West Side looks like. The title will tell you everything you need to know for now so check it out.

Chicago gang rivals band together to control neighborhood drug trade

This is where I'm at. Me, Korey Lewis, Gabriel Perez, Kia, Kyle and a few others that I know; of whom have been called to minister to the people and experience God's working. Continue to pray for us and West Chicago. God will have His way, we labor towards the day! Amen

 http://www.suntimes.com/photos/galleries/7259451-417/chicago-gang-rivals-band-together-to-control-neighborhood-drug-trade.html 

Saturday, August 27, 2011

Back to Schoolers, We Are!

I bet you like my Yoda jargon; don't you? The first week back to school have come and gone. That was fast. Now I only have 15 weeks to go. One things that I know, attitude makes a grave difference to the schooling endeavor. I know there were some adults in my past (mom and dad will get credit first) that told me this before. True this is (in my yoda voice). Not only do I love my professors this semester, but I love all the classes too. It is quite unfortunate that I feel like only a handful of us students here out of 1,500 plus are actually saying that. I've literally been waiting at least a month to get back to school. I had to read more than 200 pages for my first class back the weekend before classes even started. That's what comes with school. No easing in, no warnings, and no grace; at least for what it seems. Still I must interject that if you were as excited for class and work as kid that just learns how to read, you would not dread being the back to school. Instead you would be driven for the knowledge you obtain and not just the people that sit in dread with you wondering what you'll all be doing once your class ends. So think about it, stay busy, and work hard.

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Just As It Is!

So I seen someone get shot on Sunday. Luckily for him, he was grazed at the head. Now that there, is close proximity. A family in our church also had there car stolen this past Sunday. Pray for them.
School has started and I love my classes. It seems that I'll have a bit of work to do unlike my past three semesters and I thoroughly appreciate it. I look forward to it. I can't afford to stay after this semester, nor will I have enough to pay the current one, yet I am not worried as I trust in the Lord to be my provider. So be looking out for a support letter very soon. Love you guys. talk to you soon. Be looking out for the next survey.  

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Stages (Poem)

 Stages


No Lord no…

I’m not ready…

I don’t even know where I’m going

If only you would answer that second prayer

I’m not comfortable here

Yes Lord yes…

I do trust You…

But why this place

This will be too hard

I’m not equipped to handle this

Why Lord why…

I do remember what You’ve done…

This just ain’t the same thing

I can’t relate here

Who would want to hear me

Ok Lord ok…

My hope is in You…

Well maybe things will go well

We’ll see how this works out

Who knows what will happen

Sorry Lord sorry…

I give up fighting…

You are in control

This is your working not mine

Your will be done God
I SURRENDER! 


And here's something from Propaganda. Enjoy it!


Tuesday, August 16, 2011

A Survey on Un(married) Relationships- How Do You See It? {PT. 4}

Question 3. (All is fair in Love?)
Lots of people asked me "what's this suppose to mean?"
Some said "NO! somebody's gonna get hurt either way"
Some said "just because you think its love doesn't give people the right to act how they want"
This is one of those questions that made me laugh. No offense to anyone. But the saying, "all is fair in love(and war), is reference to the idea that when it comes to love, you go as far as you need to to win...were not talking about fornication and lying, being deceitful and whatnot. So let me use two a few examples to help you out. Take "the notebook", in the end, male from past takes girl from guy in present. Fair? you decide. Or, how about a favorite, "500 days of Summer", girl chooses no strings attached approach with the guy "in love" with her. Then, when he gets attached she leaves, finds the right man, invites boy to the wedding party thing; and it seems that he's left sad and lonely but she's in love and married and happy. Fair? you decide. Or my favorite movie ever, "HITCH", now tell me these men are wrong for getting help! I dare you! But women got mad that men hired someone to help them in their pursuit? Sounds odd to me. But hey, don't take any chances for love. That would not be fair? or is it? I mean, you ARE individuals. You are NOT married.

Question 4. (Leaving one relationship to be with another)
Depending on the situation, No...may said
That's the persons choice...said others
Yes. How can someone just up and leave?
Considering the fact that you don't have all the info, might not know the situation, and that a person can choose to do things without explanation; I think the expectations we have aren't far fetched, though I do think that when those expectations aren't in some way honored that we should not be so disappointed. We want to have some control, we want to know all the whys and hows for the most part if we can right? We want things to make some reasonable sense in our own minds. And if it happened that way it would suck, it would hurt, c'mon now keep it real, i know. Still, that person IS an individual. They are NOT married. So, "come what may", I say. Don't let it take your life away.

Question 5. (oppressive, possessive, cooperative)
"Definitely possessive" hahaha
"I don't know, but oppressive sounds soo baaaad."
"I think most relationships are good. at least the ones I've seen"
The current state. Ummm, well, what we do know is that the divorce rate is the highest ever, but this isn't about marriage. You're absolutely right, but that relationship does start somewhere right. OK then. So what does an oppressive relationship look like? It may be the type that affects either persons life where their personality and character changes to something they truly are not. Sometimes the "relationship" affects others in a way that friends or family, work, school or whatever ends up being sacrificed at the expense of the particular "relationship." Basically in truth the relationship just is not healthy.
A Possessive relationship is the "my girl", "my boy" type deal. The "I belong to you/ you to me type thinking" As if this person really does. Again, as Christians, looking at this as God might; why do we place "so much" value "in" this person to the point that they no longer stand next to other valued things but instead supersede them. The attachment that happens is not likely how God intends, if it is really examined, the intimacy, the so called "right to", hold, touch, talk to, think about this person in a way that you act towards or allow another to act towards you; because you two are a "couple now". Or  maybe you ARE just two individuals. That are NOT married and should not act as such.
A Cooperative relationship is one that runs like freeway lanes... same direction, side by side, sometimes it merges but then separates again, has a place to pull over for rest or fixing and has exits that allow cars to get off or join...they parallel. A cooperative relationship must remain in there individual state "working together/ with one another". What it's not is a joining or crossing of paths like many believe it to be. They cooperate; not consummate!


Question 6. (describing a relationship status)
What does "Being" mean?
Just Together? I don't like the way that sounds.
I think courting is the best method, it's biblical.
Dating for sure. What courting doesn't sound right.
Because I cannot fully elaborate without going into speech mode, I'll do my best to make this section quick and to the point. 
Let's talk about BEING: Me being me, you being you, us being us. Its a good things to BE. We can BE together without losing ourselves. Not basing the relationship on what you "do" or only who you are together but simply that you want to, like to, can BE; and choose to "BE".
What if you're JUST TOGETHER: Much does not differ from being. You acknowledge that you two have chosen to have a relationship with one another; just as all people do. You've stayed far from labels that begin to mold that relationship to an idea too commonly known to be something that is pure and without outside influence as much as possible. They do not want to be defined by some unclear label that is not unique to themselves. Rather, they are alright with simply being, JUST TOGETHER.
If you're going to call yourself to be COURTING. Understand that this is a biblical principal from the Word of God, not ancient culture. Culture changes but God does not; nor does His Word. Commitment to the end goal, the preparation, once ready and able. Involves family, community, and accountability; TIME. Not necessarily a formal structure, but there is a way that a Man must go about pursuing a woman and guiding the relationship they are going to have. With guidance as he and she maintain what is already in place and have mutually agreed to. This way if things are not as anticipated, there is a healthy deciding and a healthy breaking of what is being pursued without feeling damaged. It is wise, steady and clear and should not be taken so lightly; likewise it should not carry the burden of force or complete obligation as if it cannot be broken.
Last and least of all. DATING.  What is dating anyway? Getting to know someone? Naw...you can do that anyway...Preparing for marriage? Not really, it's too fluid for that... Finding out if things will work out? UUhhgg, that's a horrible way to find out. You should probably know first....Or is it just the only known and most common term we have for two people in a "relationship"? Well if that's the way the majority do it right? Wrong! Christians are suppose to be the minority. Do things different. Just because it's "Christian Dating" doesn't make it any better, nor any different. We can't even come to common definition of the word. People get confused by it. Coffee date, friend date, man date(ridiculous), intimate dating, dating around. COME, ON, PEOPLE! What's this really all about? Dating is a form of exchange, money for time, time for emotion, emotion for care... etc... etc... etc... sometimes it's heavier than thought, sometimes it's not...The word itself can generate different thought and emotions in people...A guy wants to take you on a date(nothing to serious), the girl hears the word date and is years ahead thinking about what marriage might be like... See the problem; And vice verse... Plus , the word dating also can come with expectation, a form or ideal type of feelings, passions, disgust maybe. And it often leads to exclusivity of the two who are dating. A recipe for disaster, because we all know, two people aren't THAT strong. HA! dating. I personally hate the word for all that it is and means...(it's become personal; I refuse to do it)....So the question is? Is there a better way? Probably. What do we call it? You decide? How do we do it? Unmarried relationships, that is?

according to the majority answers on this survey...this is just an example....sounds like
"its not wrong for a guy to pursue a girl in a relationship, because she's committed, and no, all is not fair in love, although it would not be wrong if that person left the relationship to be with another, the state of the relationship is possessive anyway, yea, and they're only dating!"


How does that sound to you...try it for what you chose and see how that sounds. So what's the right answers then.

Glad you asked!
I don't fully know. But it is not and cannot be the way it's been going. I know it'll never get perfect. But what is the Body for?  and I mean the Body of Christ! I'm asking for Your help. When will men be men? Because I want to be a better man. When will women stop falling for crap. Probably when men start being men. If we're single, we're all in unmarried relationships, and I think we need to handle them better, we need some guidance. There's too much on the line. We're talking about my Life! I ain't gone play with it, you shouldn't either. Learn to love each other, I mean really love one another, molding and sharpening each other. I can't even do that because most exclusive has replaced community. The entitlement we feel, what means we care, how long until we are "in love" and all that jazz. We've got to be more careful. God will make us really stand out if we really are and want to be different. The choice is up to us. Let's continue to explore these things.

THANK YOU FOR READING. I HOPE TO LEARN FROM YOU AND POST MORE. EXPLORE MORE... sorry if it was long...I get excited sometimes..hahah...so until the next post...Live To Be Known...Live To Make Christ Known!

Monday, August 15, 2011

A Survey on Un(married) Relationships- How Do You See It? {PT. 3}

What I'll be doing here is an analysis of the survey...I (AM) looking to make a point. What I am (NOT) doing, is to try and draws conclusions as if I've got all the answers. This was meant for fun, this was done in fun, have fun with it. Agree, disagree, write your own analysis, make sure to comment, follow if you dig my style and help support ya boy in a quest to always keep it real and stir things up.Now, as one of my favorite Disney movie quotes would go, "Leeet's Do This Thing!".....(who can tell me what movie that is ay?) trivia question!

I loved the reactions from this survey. I specifically had couples do this survey too. Discussions began at lunch tables and in the fellowship hall. I felt like I had accomplished my mission.

When it comes to analyzing this survey what you need to know is that the questions were specifically ordered so that each would be hinged on the previous. For some, it caused people to seem as if they were contradicting themselves in their answering, but that's not entirely true because all people have their reasoning, right? Well, that's what I would like to explore. There is a reason that the answers are the way they are. There is also a reason why the questions are left open ended with no explanations or situational attachments.

I for one do not think that they are necessary for answering (at least i this case). I caught some flak from people who were upset about having people answer questions as if they're black and white answers; they wanted to know how far the relationships were because it mattered to them and background info about why someone would do what was on the survey.  Claiming that they could not or would not make a judgement call based on lack of or faulty information.

On the contrary I see people make judgements, say things and answer questions based on little to no information daily. The hard part about this survey is that people are pulled in and faced with answering and being confronted with some (what has been described as) hard personal questions. I mean, if you keep from imagining these as extreme situations then it does sometimes. These things happen in real life. You'll fill in the blanks for yourself. But, it happens, and if it does, you will, have to answer the question.

Let me define an unmarried relationship. There are many definitions. But, here we say that a relationship (kept in context) is: two individuals who choose to have some form of connection to one another.

Question 1. (about a man pursuing a woman in a current unmarried relationship)
Some would argue that doing this doesn't respect the other guy or the girl...
Some say "its not a sin, and not necessarily wrong, even if they don't like that...
Some say "go for it, you may be better, she may need/want something else....
Well, the decision IS hers; to reject the guy, say she has a man, or actually talk to him. Why must there be a weight on a girls shoulder to not, when it's her right and freedom to make her own decision. And for this other guy, why should he care who she's supposedly with? What if he actually wants and cares for this girl more. He doesn't have the right take that chance? He does not have to care about the other guys feelings. In the end, people will do what they want, that's why men and women cheat. What if, just what if? Men and women kept it real, made a decision, stuck to it and were truthful about it. They ARE individuals, they are NOT married... So why can't you accept it, or maybe we should ask. Why can you?


Question 2. (about two people in a (UM) relationship being...?)
Some would argue that two people are bound by their word to each other.
Some say that they are committed because they "chose" one another.
Some say "hey, not married equals single to me; at least when it's all said and done"
So let's keep this in line. As Christians, if we are looking at this from a Biblical perspective, as God may see it, what would we say. Are two unmarried peoples bound to each other. I think not, so I'll cancel that out. When we think of commitment, to whom are we committed. God? or this other person? and in what way. To edifying one another right? to helping, praying for, ministering to? To Timothy "a young man himself" Paul said instructed him to act towards young ladies like sisters in all purity...Although we as people commit to one another for many different reasons. As believers it comes out of love; you know the two greatest commandments , which should come from our commitment to God and His Word right... So would God say that two, unmarried, with a relationship are single? or committed to one another. Maybe they ARE just two individuals; that are NOT married. Are they single? You decide.


I WOULD LIKE TO TAKE THIS TIME TO THANK YOU FOR READING AND PARTICIPATING....THE LAST FOUR ANALYZED QUESTIONS WILL BE FOUND ON THE LAST AND FINAL POST!

HOLLA!






A Survey on Un(married) Relationships- How Do You See It? {PT.2}

 The demographics of those I questioned do not reach beyond my campus really. All unmarried young men and women, all professed believers/followers in Jesus Christ, and Bible school students with a single digit percentile of those being affiliated with the school. Ages range from 17(early bloomer) through 26. (mostly 18-23 because of the demographic.)

Now we get to see some answers. Who will be revealed first. Guys of course, I 'm sorry for the stereotype but I assume that ladies read blogs far more than fellas....So here you go ladies.

The total number of single men
103

Question 1.
No - 55                [53%]
Yes - 48                [47%]

Question 2.
Single - 21            [20%]
Committed - 79    [77%]
Bound - 0              [0%]
Omitted - 3           [.03%]

Question 3.
Yes - 13                 [13%]
No - 90                  [87%]

Question 4.
Yes - 20                  [19%]
No - 82                  [80%]
Omitted - 1            [.01%]

Question 5.
Oppressive - 10     [10%]
Possessive - 62      [60%]
Cooperative - 28    [27%]
Omitted - 3             [.03%]

Question 6.
Dating - 78             [76%]
Courting - 14          [14%]
Being - 3                 [.03%]
Just Together - 3    [.03%]
Omitted - 5             [.04%]

The total number of single women
125

Question 1.
No - 71                [57%]

Yes - 52                [42%]

Omitted - 2          [.01%]


Question 2.
Single - 23            [20%]

Committed - 95    [77%]

Bound - 3              [.015%]

Omitted - 3           [.015%]



Question 3.
Yes - 20                  [16%]

No - 103                 [82%]

Omitted - 2            [.02%]


Question 4.
Yes - 23                  [18%]

No - 100                 [80%]

Omitted - 2            [.02%]


Question 5.
Oppressive - 9       [.06%]

Possessive - 66      [53%]

Cooperative - 45    [40%]
Omitted - 5             [.01%]


Question 6.
Dating - 98             [78%]

Courting - 15          [12%]

Being - 6                 [.03%]

Just Together - 2    [.05%]

Omitted - 4             [.02%]

The total percentile of total male and female young adults
228

Question 1.
No - 55%
Yes - 44 %
omit - 1%

Question 2.
Single - 20%
Committed - 77%
Bound - 1%
omit - 2%

Question 3.
Yes - 14.5%
No - 84.5%
omit - 1%

Question 4.
Yes - 18.5% 
No - 80%
omit - 1.5%

Question 5.
Oppressive - 5.5%
Possessive - 56.5%
Cooperative - 33.5%
omit - 4.5%

Question 6.
Dating - 77%
Courting - 13%
Just Together - 3%
Being - 4%
omit - 3%

So there are your numbers...Wonder if as a Christian you fall into the majority or one of the minority mindsets...bet you also wonder how people on the street would compare in answers huh? well maybe I'll get to do that this semester...but think about how I answered this, because I made it, we'll talk about all that in the next post....until then...

Saturday, August 13, 2011

A Survey on Un(married) Relationships- How Do You See It? {PT.1}

OH THE JOY!!!
Can you tell that I'm a lil excited about this?

Right off the bat I've got to tell you how I'm thinking to go about this.....I've got the numbers factored for the survey, Split up by question and by gender. Ive got the numbers for each, including the answers I had to omit, and the percentage of what that is. I would have made some type of graph for you all but I haven't done much of anything with this since last semester ended. (If I get extra time I'll make up a graph alright.)

Now the last survey I did had three parts and a few people said that that was too long. I don't care though, so however many parts this take will have to do. That way I can do a few broken up post rather than one super fricken long one...So How should we begin...Ahhhhh, OK.

I'll show you the survey and you can take it yourself if you'd like to right now...
Then we'll follow with post 2 on the numbers in short and then post 3 on some philo/social/psycho/anthro.....pology type business. (that's actually the best part-that's why it comes last).

Please remember that this whole survey is about "UNMARRIED RELATIONSHIPS"... so don't ask me questions about them, my answer will be "They're not married!" (that's the basis of it all)

How Do You See It? A Survey (choose one answer for each)

1. Is it wrong for a single man to pursue a woman in a current unmarried relationship?
    Yes     No

2. Two people in a current relationship are?
    Single   Committed   Bound

3. Do you agree with the statement, "All is fair in Love & War"? [sidebar: "&war" wasn't the original survey]
    Yes     No

4. When a person in a current relationship leaves to be with another are they wrong?
    Yes     No

5. Which best describes the current state of most relationship? (as you see them)
    Oppressive   Possessive   Cooperative

6. How would you describe a relationship status?
    Dating   Courting   Just Together

THERE YOU HAVE IT....HOPE IT WAS FUN....SEE YOU ON THE NEXT POST!

The Quick Update.

Man, This summer has been long, festive, intense, calm, and any other adjectives that can be thought of I'm sure...(those, are, adjectives......right?) hahahah

Well I Start back to school on the 22nd of this month of August. That's exactly one week and 2 days yall.....SOO EXCITED.

I have much to catch you up on...so there may be a flurry of post, poems and pictures...well, maybe

What I think I'm most excited about is the two surveys I have yet to publish but had promised since last semester... haven't even looked at them. So that means I just need to get it out and get them over so I can move on to more for this up ans coming schoolyear.....

so that's all you get for now...I Love Yall....keep up w me. holla at me....comment...show me you're there. This is my imperfect, intentional, sporadic, jumbled, if you know me I be goofy/trippin/serious/mistaken for bipolar self............

Then that's what you can expect....if not. you've just been warned...
We gone love Jesus, have fun, be real and be us......Ready!

Don't Matter...HAHA! im gone